Priorities

One thing I've noticed from my years in the transgendered community is that girls will spend hundreds, even thousands, of dollars on the "outside" without blinking an eye. They will buy expensive dresses and lingerie, makeup, wigs, shoes, anything that is "fun".

Unfortunately, when it comes to things to help them on the "inside" - such as therapy, personal development books, etc, they suddenly develop a very tight hand around their pocketbooks. I think this is one of the problems in our community. I don't deny anyone fun. We all need fun. it is fun to be pretty and dress up, etc.

However, if you're miserable inside, don't you want to find help with that? If you don't like the way society is treating you, don't you want to find a way to be more respected? Don't you want to find a way to develop the inner strength to not be bothered so much by that. Therapy and self help books and other resources such as these can help.

It kind of amazes me how girls I have talked to will balk at paying $20 for a book that could help them, while at the same time wearing one pair of shoes that probably cost 4 times that, not to mention their $40 Victoria's secret bra that only lasts temporarily.

Don't forget to work on your inside. Don't forget to seek help in loving yourself. Don't forget to seek out and buy things that can help you become who you want to be on the inside. Clothes and makeup are fun, but they don't buy you long lasting happiness. That has to come from within. Things such as books and therapy can help you with the latter. Treat yourself to that inner self help. That is a gift that will last a lifetime and not just for a night or a few months of wear.

You're a special person inside. Nurture that inner person and not just your body!